so sad…

23 Dec

we’ve received a lot of mail addressed to the now deceased, former owner of our home.  most of it was junk mail, no real correspondence.  however since the holiday season started, that changed.  we’ve gotten several cards from (obviously) long lost friends and family, wishing the Ms. a happy holiday & good new year.

when this happened the first time, we had accidently opened the card, not paying attention to the name on the front and only after, realized our error.  the message was fairly generic, a little note  of  “merry christmas” scrawled below the bible passage pre-printed on the card with a list of family members names in scratchy cursive that reminded me of my grandmother.  later that night i looked through the papers from our house closing wondering if i could find an address for the family member who had sold us the home (it was the owners nephew) but to no avail.  i briefly considered contacting the realtor but figured it probably wasn’t worth the hassle considering it was just the one card.

a week later however there was another.  and another.  we opened each one.  we shouldn’t have i know, but i couldnt just write deceased on the envelope and have them returned.  thats just not right either.  the third card however had a long message written over every available inch of the card.  with lines saying “ive tried to call more times than i can count”, “maybe you’re with your nephew, or in a hospital”.  the thing that just killed me was “i’m hoping you’re alive.  i love you dear and happy holiday wherever you are.”

so i decided to write her back.  i apologized for opening a letter than wasnt mine and said how i hate to be the bearer of bad news but i couldnt imagine worrying about your friend at the holidays any longer.  i dropped it in the mail today & i hope it finds her well.  feels like such a terrible thing to do at the holidays but i think trying to call over and over again would be just as bad.

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